Do You Feel Alone And Overwhelmed By Your Feelings?
Do you have negative thoughts and feelings that seem to take over every part of your life, making it difficult to find joy in anything? Do you sometimes feel like disappearing into a black hole because you find life too difficult? Maybe you feel lonely or ashamed of not being “normal”. Perhaps you struggle to talk about your sadness to anyone, because you don’t quite understand it and maybe you don’t know where it comes from. Or, maybe you just don’t have the energy to explain your emotional turmoil.
Are you feeling numb or detached? Do you feel a sense of hopelessness and worthlessness? Maybe you’re experiencing a loss in motivation to do the activities you love or to be with the people you care about. You may have difficulty sleeping—or sleeping too much—or have a hard time concentrating on seemingly simple things. Maybe you are grieving the loss of a loved one or the loss of a relationship. Or, perhaps you’re unhappy in your career and lacking a sense of purpose.
Regardless of why you’re feeling depressed, do you wish that you could find someone who could listen, understand and help you engage with and make sense of your world of feelings and aspects of your life that you struggle with?
Many People Suffer From Depression
You may feel like your depression has taken control of your life—you are not alone. Feeling depressed can feel isolating, lonely and shameful, which makes it even harder to communicate the bleak and disabling nature of depression. Being depressed can totally disrupt your life, just as much as other serious illnesses, yet depression is utterly invisible. As frustrating and painful as it may be, depression is actually very common—according to the Royal College of Psychiatrists, one in five people become depressed at some point in their lives. It can be so hard to keep your head up, especially if life concerns like finances, your career and/or your relationships are weighing you down. It can be even more difficult to go through each day pretending everything is okay, when deep down you know it’s not.
When we experience depression, things that used to make us feel happy or elicit a smile tend to produce a weak emotional response. Likewise, situations that used to make us angry or maybe tearful tend to result in a kind of detached response. These depression symptoms, like being emotionally disconnected or numb, can sometimes come from feeling overwhelmed and overburdened by life’s challenges. They can also be understood as a way of protecting ourselves from unwanted and unmanageable feelings and memories that are painful, uncomfortable and possibly traumatic.
Depression is associated with feelings of loneliness, sadness, guilt, anger and a sense of worthlessness. It often is described as feeling emotionally numb, empty or paralysed. The problem with emotional numbness is that it is impossible to just disconnect from our unwanted, uncomfortable and painful feelings. When we avoid difficult emotions, we also numb our good feelings, such as happiness, love and joy. Therefore, when left untreated, depression can get in the way of personal growth and prevent us from living a more fulfilled and creative life.
With professional help from a trained psychologist, you will have the opportunity to explore and make sense of your depression and its deeper meaning. This process is likely to facilitate changes within you which will bring you closer to living a more authentic and satisfied life.
Depression Therapy Can Open Up New Possibilities
In my therapy practice, it is one of my priorities to create a space in which a trusting therapeutic relationship can develop. This is likely to facilitate and encourage a gentle and gradual unfolding of feelings and memories that you may have disconnected from for some time. This way of working together offers an opportunity and invitation to compassionately explore, reflect on and process any current distress and past trauma.
During psychological therapy for depression, I will support you in developing and strengthening your capacity to make friends with your inner world of feelings. Exploring your emotional landscape and experiences in this way, will gradually enable you to become more comfortable with a broader range of experiences in your day to day life. Our work will support you in developing skills and inner resources to help you manage strong and uncomfortable feelings more effectively. Also, in the process of your sessions, you will be invited to become more aware how you respond to uncomfortable feelings. This will enable you to identify the underlying—and often unhelpful—patterns (e.g. avoidance) that may be keeping you stuck.
During my professional career which involved over 25 years of study and clinical work, I have helped many people who have suffered from depression. Remember, you are not alone. With support, patience, some courage and commitment to taking these positive steps, you can find relief from the often overwhelming and hopeless experience of depression. As part of your recovery journey, you are likely to discover or re-discover a sense of hope and meaning in your life. However, you may have some questions or concerns about depression therapy:
How can therapy help me through this depression?
In my experience, therapy can lead to profound changes. Depression therapy is aimed at helping you better understand yourself and develop your ability to shift unhelpful patterns involving your feelings, thoughts and behaviors. This is likely to take time, however, with commitment and support you can begin to grow in ways you may not have been able to before.
What should I expect during sessions?
Psychological therapy is most successful when there is a strong commitment to the therapeutic endeavor. Your readiness and motivation for change are very important factors in the therapy process. Some of the ingredients that I will bring to our work are curiosity, empathy and a capacity to listen well and deeply. I will articulate and share with you some of my observations in a sensitive and thoughtful manner. Also, I will introduce you to new psychological ideas and perspectives, which are aimed at enhancing your self-awareness and understanding.
Depression is often associated with a powerful, harsh, judgmental and dismissive inner attitude, which can be a primary factor in feeling depressed and powerless. Therefore, you will be encouraged to develop an inner attitude of compassionate curiosity in relation to your thoughts, feelings, vulnerabilities, struggles and all other aspects of your life.
What if therapy makes me feel worse?
Therapy can feel unsettling and destabilizing at times. Talking about difficult life experiences naturally can trigger turbulent feelings and memories. Depression therapy offers an opportunity to explore, contain and integrate these emotional states. With gentle guidance, I will support you in developing inner resources aimed at helping you manage and contain difficult thoughts and feelings. Over time, this can gradually bolster your capacity to withstand stress and strengthen your resilience in day to day life .
Dare to start tackling your unhappiness with depression therapy?